False accusations of physical and sexual abuse from previous marriage, can they take him to court?

This a complicated situation. I have been married to my huband for 9 years and we have 5 children. He was previously married for 17 years and had three children. When they divorced his ex wife got custody of kids and refused to allow him anywhere near them. She threatened him that she would do anything it took to keep him away and get him thrown in jail if he tried to see them. They agreed that there would be no spousal or child support. So to keep the peace and stability for his kids he did not see them for a number of years. When his youngest son was in high school the son got a job where we could see him once a week and they started a relationship again. Over the next 5 years they talked once a week, son came by to visit, played with siblings, made us a part of his family. There was never any contact with older two children and husband resepcted their wishes and didn't bother them. Son was killed at 21 years old in a job related accident. There is a wrongful death suit pending. Ex-wife has now claimed that husband abandoned family and had no realtionship with son. We just had to go through depositons and she claims that he physically abused her. She only could come up with two incidences and both are false. She said he kicked her with steel toed boots and she had to go to emergency room. Husband didn't own steel toed boots at the time. Oldest son, now 29, says he punched him once- also false, and daughter,now 27, is claiming that he sexually abused her from age 4, also false. If the mother knew this and believed it why did she not go to police years ago? Police were never called for any incident, there were no doctor visits, no counselling. I have never suspected husband of any wrong actions against our children. Can they turn this into a case and persue charges against my husband? There was never anything said until there are potentially millions of dollars at stake. just looking for opinions or advice.False accusations of physical and sexual abuse from previous marriage, can they take him to court?
The answer to your question is yes charges can be filed. The sound of this you are doing what a wife should do and that is uphold and believe your husband, then again you being a mother should look at how the other kids feel regardless of their ages... Sometimes kids will keep things to them self until they feel safe and secure even if it means waiting until you are an adult. Then I understand that sometimes people can be mean and cruel and do things that make absolutely no sense to anyone. This is a very bad situation that you guys are in.. may the truth help you out.. good luckFalse accusations of physical and sexual abuse from previous marriage, can they take him to court?
She can take him to court for anything, but the judges are not stupid, He or she will also wonder why these accusations are surfacing now instead of before. and will judge the case accordingly, the judge knows that just because it;s a deposition, it doesn't mean it's the truth.
I start wondering whenever a woman claims that everybody is lying except her husband. It's far more likely that there is only one liar in this scenario - your husband.
he needs proof...find witnesses of their relationship from back then. sorry
OKay I'm not saying one way or another if your husband is guilty or innocent. I'm just giving personal experience.





My mothers husband had been previously married and had two children. The ex-wife claimed he was abusive and violent. My mother stood beside and fought with him. It was all brought out during the custody battle. There was never any charges pressed or anything. He ended up with visitation. That didn't happen often and it wasn't a happy blending as I think his kids picked up his crazy gene. Anyway later on (much later) his son began to claim that he was abused -- not sexually, but physically -- like punches and stuff. The daughter says it never happened, but shes not very stable and lies alot. That's not biased that's just reality btw.


My mom stood by him during all these accusations. The psychiatric evaluation that was done on her husband during the court battles -- were false she said. Etc etc...


This year was their 15th year together. She finally kicked him out and started the process of divorce. He was abusive. Physically, emotionally, and verbally. He did throw my mom threw walls, he did manipulate me, and physically hurt my sisters (he could never hit me as I wasn't his child. My mom would have nailed his balls to the wall for that one for sure. She wasn't a weak woman, but he knew exactly how far to push her before she would leave him) Anyway, he was very abusive. The last straw was him having my mom raped by his co worker.





My point is that love can be blind. Some times women throw unfounded accusations out just to win these cases, but most times they are legitimate. It could be she didn't say anything during the divorce because she felt she was the victim. It's a big thing for a victim of abuse to stand up and divorce the abuser. Addinghumiliationn to that might not have been what she wanted to do. Abuse victims want to cut and leave. They have the survival instinct of ';just get away'; They don't care how they just want out. Therefore she might not have brought it up, at the time, due to that. Now that she has been free for 9 years she might feel a little more confident and secure to speak out about it.





Or, she could just be a gold digger, trying to make a profit off her sons death.





She can't really press charges because these things happened so long ago. There is no way to really prove them. There is a statue of limitations and chances are the deadline has passed. She can smear his name in court though but a good judge should dismiss it as ';he said, she said.';





In the end I would try to get documentation to prove her allegations false. But please be careful. There is a smallpercentagee of women that cry wolf, but there are still many who really were victimized. I personally watched my love blinded mom go through years of abuse and humiliation and still tell herself he wasn't abusive. Victims abuse lead rough lives.... but the hardest thing for them to do is to stand up and get out.
Anyone can sue another person in court for any reason, as long as their is solid proof..sounds like there are many serious issues pending. and your husband should be seeking out legal counsel..


If the ex wife has file any charges against your husband, then they would be an investigation by law enforcement..
they can make him go to court and fight it out int he court systems but once a judge looks at it he is basically going to see through the lies and see what is going on My Fiance is going through the same false accusations wtih his EX and three kids :0)


Just make sure your husband has PROOF that they are all LIES and the EX wife could also get into BIG BIG trouble with the law as she let it go on and KNEW about it before hand
My parents were married 16 years and in that time frame, my father molested my sister and brother both! My mom didn't know about it, and neither did my sister or brother go to Police or report it to any one.





If this lady says he abused her, he probably did. If your saying it was only twice..........what the heck does that mean? Isn't ONCE enough??


If his own kids say they were abused........they probably were!





People do and can change maybe this man has done so in his new marriage.


So in other words, your husband and you feel you deserve millions cause of the death of a son he wasn't even really a father to? Money hungry and your mad that the ex wife can profit from this and you may not? maybe go have one of your 5 die and get money that way!
';She threatened him that she would do anything it took to keep him away and get him thrown in jail if he tried to see them';.





If he was innocent, why in the world would he sit back and let her 'take' his children completely out of his live like that? It seems very unlikely. If it were my kids, I would fight with everything I had to keep them in my life regardless of 'false' claims of abuse.





How long have you known this man? Did you know him when he was still married to this woman? How do you know all of these allegations are false, as you say?


It sounds to me like she is terrified of him and having her children near him. This sounds like a woman who has been abused and may have witnessed her children being abused. Many women and kids do no report crimes of sexual or physical assault because of FEAR. If I were you, I would stop listening to the thoughts and ideas that your husband is feeding you, and listen to your intuition. What do you really feel, deep down in your gut? This story has way too many holes and questions. It's very fishy that ALL family members are claiming abuse. No man abandons his family when threatened like that, unless he knows he has done something wrong.





It also sounds like this is all coming to the surface again because there is a financial settlement in the near future. Honestly, hasn't any of this crossed your mind?